Arrrghh! Wedding Planning....

Skodaboy1983 · 17-06-2008, 07:32

Never knew it would be so stressful

Trying to get a venue for the reception and it looks like we're just going to have it for family and close friends. Even through my mum and dad have offered to pay up to £1000 for the reception as their wedding present to us we have went over budget by say £300 which is not too bad, but we still need entertainment, photographer.

Going to phone a couple of places today to see if I can get a appointment with a wedding advisor, so that me, SWMBO and my dad can go along to see whats what.

Anybody in the same boat or who endured the stress be able to help.

Cheers

Davy

Gyp · 17-06-2008, 08:23

Live together for a while longer. Then you'll have nowhere near enough money to even consider getting married.

"Why should I get married? She's emptied my account already"

Skodaboy1983 · 17-06-2008, 08:26

Our main aim was to have a cheap as possible wedding nothing too lavish but with the offer of £1000 to pay for the recepetion we thought it would be worthwhile to get a decent reception place instead of say the local church hall.

Johnny50 · 17-06-2008, 09:07

Davy,

Keep an eye peeled for some wedding fairs.

Loads at this time of year in the town etc...

As for places..

Any bowling clubs etc..near you ?

Church hall can be just as nice if you dont want to spend lots of cash.

A few hours hard work can get a hall looking great for a reception.

Skodaboy1983 · 17-06-2008, 09:09

Tbe only problem we have is do you think we have left it too late as the wedding in April! The other problem with the church hall is no booze allowed!

Johnny50 · 17-06-2008, 09:13

Depends on which church hall you go to i suppose.

Wedding i was at last week was a church hall in Peebles, no bar, but kitchen was full of booze for folks to help themselves.

I wouldn't think you've left it too late.
Although the sooner you can find somewhere, get a regsitrar booked (if thats the way you're going)
Or book a church if you're a member of a local one ??

Your other option would be to knock it back a month or two if you cant find anywhere.

daiking · 17-06-2008, 09:19

I don't think you've left it too late for next April

Consider changing the day from Saturday (if that's waht you're planning) so that you have better venue availability and you might be able to get a discount compared to a Saturday wedding.

I have to admit that I'm lucky that my FiL paid to feed and water 375 people (free bar) - (different culture so it cost much less than you would think) - but considering 350 were his friends and family, I thought that was fair.

Skodaboy1983 · 17-06-2008, 09:20

Just called the quay in Musselburgh and the suite is free for our big day so I have pencilled ourselfs in but need to arrange a suitable appointment so we can view the room and see if it will be ok.

We managed to get the church booked a wee while ago and I did ask about booze but church of scotland does not allow it, but a catholic church does so I have heard, lucky for being a member I get the church for a fee of £100!

Johnny50 · 17-06-2008, 09:22

Good stuff Davy.

Quay is always busy with weddings, and always good.
Hall is a fair size upstairs too.

And plenty car parking for the Fabias

Skodaboy1983 · 17-06-2008, 09:25

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Originally Posted by Johnny50

Good stuff Davy.

Quay is always busy with weddings, and always good.
Hall is a fair size upstairs too.

And plenty car parking for the Fabias

The main thing is we're under no obligation to book with them just pencilled in at the moment which is good.

You still up for wedding car driver Johnny still going to run with the idea of Fabia's for something that bit diffrent!

Johnny50 · 17-06-2008, 09:43

Always up for something i am.

Skodaboy1983 · 17-06-2008, 09:46

cheers sir,

We just want our wedding to be diffrent not like pricy ones, one that we can remember say in fifty years time

ap0gee · 17-06-2008, 09:53

We looked at dozens of places for our reception, and found that a lot of them lumped the cost of hiring the place in with the cost-per-head of food and drink. Therefore, if you find somewhere with a room the right size for your number of guests, you should be able to work out pretty easily how much it's going to cost overall...

We had about 100-odd guests for both wedding breakfast and evening buffet, and it came to something like £60 per head to give you some idea of the cost (although this only included booze on arrival and with the meals...)

gilesk · 17-06-2008, 10:38

The first thing is to try and relax, we got married last year and it is stressful. for the photos do you know any one who is a keen photographer? we asked a friend who had some nice cameras to do it and he took 1,000 of which 150 were great. try and go for basic but good food, people get carried away and no one ever remembers wedding food. put the budget towards booze!

Skodaboy1983 · 17-06-2008, 10:46

I have enquired about a photographer and is offering me it for £500 instead of £800 which is like the whole day, going to see if I can get any cheaper or friends but will see. It just stressed me last night looking at prices and what people have to offer started at 6.30 and finished about 9pm!! with hardly anything done!

Johnny50 · 17-06-2008, 10:55

Davy, i know a wedding photographer, i'll give them a shout and see what the prices are like.

Skodaboy1983 · 17-06-2008, 10:56

cheers Sir, we were going to be cheeky and ask one of the briskodians!

gilesk · 17-06-2008, 10:58

Another option is to hire a digital SLR and give it to someone to use, it really is not so difficult and the days of soft focus are over. If you make a list of all the photos you want to have for sure and let them roam the wedding you should get some good shots.

Skodaboy1983 · 17-06-2008, 11:00

Aye thats what we were thinking of a SLR camera or I could just give them mt camera phone! Only joking!

Aspman · 17-06-2008, 12:30

I'm getting married on the 12th July and the thing I'm looking forward to most is not having to hear about bloody weddings any more.

We found the band to be the trickiest one to get. We had to book 18 months in advance and even then we didn't get our first choice.

You probably won't need a photographer. Most of the guest will have digital cameras and if you get copies of all of them you'll get enough good ones.

As soon as you mention the 'W' word prices triple. I think you are doing the right thing by setting a low budget. It's the people that matter not the price.

Mother-in-law and SWMBO have got 'perfect wedding fever' which means everything is very expensive and very stressful. Best avoided if you can.

17-06-2008, 07:32	#1
Skodaboy1983 SICKBOY! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Midlothian/Fife Posts: 7,501 Thanks: 235 Thanked 191 Times in 186 Posts	Arrrghh! Wedding Planning.... Never knew it would be so stressful Trying to get a venue for the reception and it looks like we're just going to have it for family and close friends. Even through my mum and dad have offered to pay up to £1000 for the reception as their wedding present to us we have went over budget by say £300 which is not too bad, but we still need entertainment, photographer. Going to phone a couple of places today to see if I can get a appointment with a wedding advisor, so that me, SWMBO and my dad can go along to see whats what. Anybody in the same boat or who endured the stress be able to help. Cheers Davy __________________ 59.7MPG 05 Lemon Yellow Fabia vRS, PD160, Green cotton filter, Stripes and B pilar Graphics, Cupra Splitter, Aero Wipers, Rear Number plate surround, silvertec indicators, and led side lights

17-06-2008, 08:23	#2
Gyp Briskodian Join Date: May 2005 Location: Glos. Posts: 365 Thanks: 5 Thanked 9 Times in 9 Posts	Re: Arrrghh! Wedding Planning.... Live together for a while longer. Then you'll have nowhere near enough money to even consider getting married. "Why should I get married? She's emptied my account already" __________________ -- Gyp 03 Octavia 1.9TDi Elegange Estate + cruise, towbar, Parrot and anti-jack 54 Fabia 1.2 12V Classic Hatch + cruise, momo strut brace, sunglass holder, Parrot, mp3 and anti-jack

17-06-2008, 08:26	#3
Skodaboy1983 SICKBOY! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Midlothian/Fife Posts: 7,501 Thanks: 235 Thanked 191 Times in 186 Posts	Re: Arrrghh! Wedding Planning.... Our main aim was to have a cheap as possible wedding nothing too lavish but with the offer of £1000 to pay for the recepetion we thought it would be worthwhile to get a decent reception place instead of say the local church hall. __________________ 59.7MPG 05 Lemon Yellow Fabia vRS, PD160, Green cotton filter, Stripes and B pilar Graphics, Cupra Splitter, Aero Wipers, Rear Number plate surround, silvertec indicators, and led side lights

17-06-2008, 09:07	#4
Johnny50 Johnny Bravo Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Edinburgh Posts: 4,759 Thanks: 169 Thanked 127 Times in 123 Posts	Re: Arrrghh! Wedding Planning.... Davy, Keep an eye peeled for some wedding fairs. Loads at this time of year in the town etc... As for places.. Any bowling clubs etc..near you ? Church hall can be just as nice if you dont want to spend lots of cash. A few hours hard work can get a hall looking great for a reception.

17-06-2008, 09:09	#5
Skodaboy1983 SICKBOY! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Midlothian/Fife Posts: 7,501 Thanks: 235 Thanked 191 Times in 186 Posts	Re: Arrrghh! Wedding Planning.... Tbe only problem we have is do you think we have left it too late as the wedding in April! The other problem with the church hall is no booze allowed! __________________ 59.7MPG 05 Lemon Yellow Fabia vRS, PD160, Green cotton filter, Stripes and B pilar Graphics, Cupra Splitter, Aero Wipers, Rear Number plate surround, silvertec indicators, and led side lights

17-06-2008, 09:13	#6
Johnny50 Johnny Bravo Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Edinburgh Posts: 4,759 Thanks: 169 Thanked 127 Times in 123 Posts	Re: Arrrghh! Wedding Planning.... Depends on which church hall you go to i suppose. Wedding i was at last week was a church hall in Peebles, no bar, but kitchen was full of booze for folks to help themselves. I wouldn't think you've left it too late. Although the sooner you can find somewhere, get a regsitrar booked (if thats the way you're going) Or book a church if you're a member of a local one ?? Your other option would be to knock it back a month or two if you cant find anywhere.

17-06-2008, 09:19	#7
daiking DILLIGAF? Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: manchester Posts: 2,076 Thanks: 53 Thanked 68 Times in 56 Posts	Re: Arrrghh! Wedding Planning.... I don't think you've left it too late for next April Consider changing the day from Saturday (if that's waht you're planning) so that you have better venue availability and you might be able to get a discount compared to a Saturday wedding. I have to admit that I'm lucky that my FiL paid to feed and water 375 people (free bar) - (different culture so it cost much less than you would think) - but considering 350 were his friends and family, I thought that was fair.

17-06-2008, 09:20	#8
Skodaboy1983 SICKBOY! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Midlothian/Fife Posts: 7,501 Thanks: 235 Thanked 191 Times in 186 Posts	Re: Arrrghh! Wedding Planning.... Just called the quay in Musselburgh and the suite is free for our big day so I have pencilled ourselfs in but need to arrange a suitable appointment so we can view the room and see if it will be ok. We managed to get the church booked a wee while ago and I did ask about booze but church of scotland does not allow it, but a catholic church does so I have heard, lucky for being a member I get the church for a fee of £100! __________________ 59.7MPG 05 Lemon Yellow Fabia vRS, PD160, Green cotton filter, Stripes and B pilar Graphics, Cupra Splitter, Aero Wipers, Rear Number plate surround, silvertec indicators, and led side lights

17-06-2008, 09:22	#9
Johnny50 Johnny Bravo Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Edinburgh Posts: 4,759 Thanks: 169 Thanked 127 Times in 123 Posts	Re: Arrrghh! Wedding Planning.... Good stuff Davy. Quay is always busy with weddings, and always good. Hall is a fair size upstairs too. And plenty car parking for the Fabias

17-06-2008, 09:43	#11
Johnny50 Johnny Bravo Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Edinburgh Posts: 4,759 Thanks: 169 Thanked 127 Times in 123 Posts	Re: Arrrghh! Wedding Planning.... Always up for something i am.

17-06-2008, 09:46	#12
Skodaboy1983 SICKBOY! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Midlothian/Fife Posts: 7,501 Thanks: 235 Thanked 191 Times in 186 Posts	Re: Arrrghh! Wedding Planning.... cheers sir, We just want our wedding to be diffrent not like pricy ones, one that we can remember say in fifty years time __________________ 59.7MPG 05 Lemon Yellow Fabia vRS, PD160, Green cotton filter, Stripes and B pilar Graphics, Cupra Splitter, Aero Wipers, Rear Number plate surround, silvertec indicators, and led side lights

17-06-2008, 09:53	#13
ap0gee ASZ Eternal Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Leafy Chesh-shire Posts: 6,285 Thanks: 301 Thanked 303 Times in 262 Posts	Re: Arrrghh! Wedding Planning.... We looked at dozens of places for our reception, and found that a lot of them lumped the cost of hiring the place in with the cost-per-head of food and drink. Therefore, if you find somewhere with a room the right size for your number of guests, you should be able to work out pretty easily how much it's going to cost overall... We had about 100-odd guests for both wedding breakfast and evening buffet, and it came to something like £60 per head to give you some idea of the cost (although this only included booze on arrival and with the meals...) __________________

17-06-2008, 10:38	#14
gilesk MadridBriskodia Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 984 Thanks: 16 Thanked 9 Times in 9 Posts	Re: Arrrghh! Wedding Planning.... The first thing is to try and relax, we got married last year and it is stressful. for the photos do you know any one who is a keen photographer? we asked a friend who had some nice cameras to do it and he took 1,000 of which 150 were great. try and go for basic but good food, people get carried away and no one ever remembers wedding food. put the budget towards booze! __________________ who'd have thought it eh?

17-06-2008, 10:46	#15
Skodaboy1983 SICKBOY! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Midlothian/Fife Posts: 7,501 Thanks: 235 Thanked 191 Times in 186 Posts	Re: Arrrghh! Wedding Planning.... I have enquired about a photographer and is offering me it for £500 instead of £800 which is like the whole day, going to see if I can get any cheaper or friends but will see. It just stressed me last night looking at prices and what people have to offer started at 6.30 and finished about 9pm!! with hardly anything done! __________________ 59.7MPG 05 Lemon Yellow Fabia vRS, PD160, Green cotton filter, Stripes and B pilar Graphics, Cupra Splitter, Aero Wipers, Rear Number plate surround, silvertec indicators, and led side lights

17-06-2008, 10:55	#16
Johnny50 Johnny Bravo Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Edinburgh Posts: 4,759 Thanks: 169 Thanked 127 Times in 123 Posts	Re: Arrrghh! Wedding Planning.... Davy, i know a wedding photographer, i'll give them a shout and see what the prices are like.

17-06-2008, 10:56	#17
Skodaboy1983 SICKBOY! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Midlothian/Fife Posts: 7,501 Thanks: 235 Thanked 191 Times in 186 Posts	Re: Arrrghh! Wedding Planning.... cheers Sir, we were going to be cheeky and ask one of the briskodians! __________________ 59.7MPG 05 Lemon Yellow Fabia vRS, PD160, Green cotton filter, Stripes and B pilar Graphics, Cupra Splitter, Aero Wipers, Rear Number plate surround, silvertec indicators, and led side lights

17-06-2008, 10:58	#18
gilesk MadridBriskodia Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 984 Thanks: 16 Thanked 9 Times in 9 Posts	Re: Arrrghh! Wedding Planning.... Another option is to hire a digital SLR and give it to someone to use, it really is not so difficult and the days of soft focus are over. If you make a list of all the photos you want to have for sure and let them roam the wedding you should get some good shots. __________________ who'd have thought it eh?

17-06-2008, 11:00	#19
Skodaboy1983 SICKBOY! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Midlothian/Fife Posts: 7,501 Thanks: 235 Thanked 191 Times in 186 Posts	Re: Arrrghh! Wedding Planning.... Aye thats what we were thinking of a SLR camera or I could just give them mt camera phone! Only joking! __________________ 59.7MPG 05 Lemon Yellow Fabia vRS, PD160, Green cotton filter, Stripes and B pilar Graphics, Cupra Splitter, Aero Wipers, Rear Number plate surround, silvertec indicators, and led side lights

17-06-2008, 12:30	#20
Aspman Briskodian Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 842 Thanks: 10 Thanked 42 Times in 37 Posts	Re: Arrrghh! Wedding Planning.... I'm getting married on the 12th July and the thing I'm looking forward to most is not having to hear about bloody weddings any more. We found the band to be the trickiest one to get. We had to book 18 months in advance and even then we didn't get our first choice. You probably won't need a photographer. Most of the guest will have digital cameras and if you get copies of all of them you'll get enough good ones. As soon as you mention the 'W' word prices triple. I think you are doing the right thing by setting a low budget. It's the people that matter not the price. Mother-in-law and SWMBO have got 'perfect wedding fever' which means everything is very expensive and very stressful. Best avoided if you can. __________________ The TazZone Forums

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