A difficult decision?

Gwilo · 19-10-2005, 15:06

bad idea to have dinner and spend evening with your ex, then stay over at her place (in spare room) overnight if she invites you?

question asked apropros of nothing, before anyone starts reading too mucn into it.

spinndrift · 19-10-2005, 15:08

In my experience yes.

The potential for 'accidents' is huge.

simon · 19-10-2005, 15:12

It would be a bad idea to stay in the spare room........The potential for 'accidents' is greatly diminished

Goochie · 19-10-2005, 15:12

Go for it - what harm can it do... its not like you will be embarassed by your hidden pimples/birthmarks - she's seen them all before.

Does she like fire doors?

**robmawer** · 19-10-2005, 15:13

It depends why she's an ex. If she's inviting you round because you're friends, I don't really see the problem. If she's just after a bootycall...I don't really see the problem.

Rob.

Gwilo · 19-10-2005, 15:15

Quote:

Originally Posted by simon

It would be a bad idea to stay in the spare room........

i'd laugh at that, apart from when i think about it, if it ever happened, i know my ex could easily beat me into a mushy pulp.

and I'm not even going to dignify the other posts - filthy boys.

Goochie · 19-10-2005, 15:17

Look at it this way, currently she's your ex and thats fine (I presume?) so if you were to bed her "by accident" then decide it was a bad idea what have you lost? You both get a good night of rumpy pumpy and in the morning she's still an ex. Overall, no change.

simon · 19-10-2005, 15:18

Sex with an ex is always great (but not always a great idea

)

**robmawer** · 19-10-2005, 15:19

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gwilo

beat me into a mushy pulp.

Rob.

Mort · 19-10-2005, 15:19

I don't see any problem with it, unless either of you have new partners. Then I see there could be problems.

Granted; their problems, but still problems.

spinndrift · 19-10-2005, 15:24

Nearly posted a message then remembered a few people I know read this forum.

I got into enough trouble just meeting an ex in a pub toilet.

Gwilo · 19-10-2005, 15:25

let's get one thing absolutely straight...

the question is in relation to staying overnight in a spare room. not sharing her room or anything even remotely suggestive.
stop thinking with contents of your pants guys. please, just for a half hour.

Never thought I'd see myself writing this, but so far, Spinndrift has been the voice of sanity...

Andy.

simon · 19-10-2005, 15:26

Quote:

Originally Posted by spinndrift

I got into enough trouble just meeting an ex in a pub toilet.

Yea I think george michael has a similar problem

**robmawer** · 19-10-2005, 15:28

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gwilo

stop thinking with contents of your pants guys. please, just for a half hour.

Very well. What's she cooking?

Rob.

Gwilo · 19-10-2005, 15:29

Quote:

Originally Posted by robmawer

Very well. What's she cooking?

Rob.

you just had to, didn't you....?
-dinner at a nice restaurant
How's that grab you?

spinndrift · 19-10-2005, 15:29

I bumped into my ex in a while ago after not seeing her for a few years (she posts on here sometimes so I need to be careful).

I was in a pub and bumped into her as I left the toilet - cue lots of crying and her telling me she loved me. It really screwed up my head.

devonutopia · 19-10-2005, 15:31

If you're still "friends" (don't ask why I put that in inverted commas, I just did

) then I see no problem with it. Maybe with some alcohol to lubricate things, some honesty and truths will come forth? (PS: Thats not meant to sound as rude as it does...)

**robmawer** · 19-10-2005, 15:39

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gwilo

you just had to, didn't you....?
-dinner at a nice restaurant
How's that grab you?

I think you should do it. Order something with lots of garlic in it, and if she is just after a bit of action, wedge something sturdy against the spare room door.

Rob.

flatfourburble · 19-10-2005, 15:40

I bumped into my X once, damn did she dent the bonnet as she went over it!

But really aslong as you dont have a current flame and you keep your wits about you I cant see there being a big problem!

spinndrift · 19-10-2005, 15:41

Quote:

Originally Posted by robmawer

I think you should do it. Order something with lots of garlic in it, and if she is just after a bit of action, wedge something sturdy against the spare room door.

Rob.

You mean sleep against it?

simon · 19-10-2005, 15:42

Quote:

Originally Posted by robmawer

I think you should do it. Order something with lots of garlic in it, and if she is just after a bit of action, wedge something sturdy against the spare room door.

Rob.

Like her bum!

lozgti · 19-10-2005, 15:45

I wouldn't want to see any of my exes again.

If you are friends though it sounds fine

Mort · 19-10-2005, 15:47

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gwilo

let's get one thing absolutely straight...

the question is in relation to staying overnight in a spare room. not sharing her room or anything even remotely suggestive.
stop thinking with contents of your pants guys. please, just for a half hour.

Never thought I'd see myself writing this, but so far, Spinndrift has been the voice of sanity...

Andy.

I used to visit my Ex quite often, and she's on the other side of the country, so I have to stay overnight or for a weekend. Nothing sinister, just as friends, and I stay in the spare room.

My new girlfriend doesn't like it much when I go. That was my point. Not saying you need to be doing anything.

If you are on good terms I don't see any problems, but it doesn't mean other people will think the same.

cmcm789 · 19-10-2005, 16:43

Unless you know exactly how she now feels about you and that its purely plutonic, and neither of you get the wrong idea then fine.

Otherwise don't even think about it!!

It would be the equivalent of walking blindfolded into a mine field with only the use of your tackle to find a way through to the other side!!

Now, think about it, do you still want to do it??

JD

roblatus · 19-10-2005, 17:32

Quote:

Originally Posted by cmcm789

Unless you know exactly how she now feels about you and that its purely plutonic, and neither of you get the wrong idea then fine.

Otherwise don't even think about it!!

It would be the equivalent of walking blindfolded into a mine field with only the use of your tackle to find a way through to the other side!!

Now, think about it, do you still want to do it??

JD

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Why not? Just becuase we've got history doesn't mean anything	15	40.54%
Depends how we both got on	11	29.73%
Only to smother her with the pillow	8	21.62%
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19-10-2005, 15:06	#1
Gwilo Undercover Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Manchester Posts: 3,687 Members Car: Rustwagon Thanks: 17 Thanked 7 Times in 7 Posts	A difficult decision? bad idea to have dinner and spend evening with your ex, then stay over at her place (in spare room) overnight if she invites you? question asked apropros of nothing, before anyone starts reading too mucn into it. __________________

19-10-2005, 15:08	#2
spinndrift Briskodian Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Woking/Bolton Le Sands Posts: 6,642 Members Car: Roomster Thanks: 1 Thanked 7 Times in 7 Posts	In my experience yes. The potential for 'accidents' is huge. __________________ Rev. Andy The Rallying Reverend www.miniroadrunnerrallying.co.uk Engine data aquisition is fun

19-10-2005, 15:12	#3
simon Briskodian Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Sunny Aylesbury Posts: 1,041 Members Car: octavia VRS Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	It would be a bad idea to stay in the spare room........The potential for 'accidents' is greatly diminished __________________ If it feels good....Do it! [IMG] Last edited by simon; 19-10-2005 at 15:13.

19-10-2005, 15:13	#5
robmawer Briskodian Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Rochdale Posts: 12,476 Members Car: Octavia 1.6 Ambiente Thanks: 2 Thanked 74 Times in 67 Posts	It depends why she's an ex. If she's inviting you round because you're friends, I don't really see the problem. If she's just after a bootycall...I don't really see the problem. Rob. __________________

19-10-2005, 15:12	#4
Goochie Briskodian Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Up a tree. Posts: 12,363 Members Car: Thanks: 7 Thanked 27 Times in 25 Posts	Go for it - what harm can it do... its not like you will be embarassed by your hidden pimples/birthmarks - she's seen them all before. Does she like fire doors?

19-10-2005, 15:17	#7
Goochie Briskodian Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Up a tree. Posts: 12,363 Members Car: Thanks: 7 Thanked 27 Times in 25 Posts	Look at it this way, currently she's your ex and thats fine (I presume?) so if you were to bed her "by accident" then decide it was a bad idea what have you lost? You both get a good night of rumpy pumpy and in the morning she's still an ex. Overall, no change.

19-10-2005, 15:18	#8
simon Briskodian Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Sunny Aylesbury Posts: 1,041 Members Car: octavia VRS Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Sex with an ex is always great (but not always a great idea ) __________________ If it feels good....Do it! [IMG]

19-10-2005, 15:19	#10
Mort Broom Broom! Join Date: May 2005 Location: Derby, England Posts: 1,440 Members Car: Fabia vRS (red '03) Thanks: 9 Thanked 47 Times in 45 Posts	I don't see any problem with it, unless either of you have new partners. Then I see there could be problems. Granted; their problems, but still problems. __________________ Fabia v/RS, in Red. Green filter & Cupra Intake, TT brakes, Josh's Sumpguard, Jabba ARB, MOMO strut brace, Powdercoated alloys. KW v1's next...

19-10-2005, 15:24	#11
spinndrift Briskodian Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Woking/Bolton Le Sands Posts: 6,642 Members Car: Roomster Thanks: 1 Thanked 7 Times in 7 Posts	Nearly posted a message then remembered a few people I know read this forum. I got into enough trouble just meeting an ex in a pub toilet. __________________ Rev. Andy The Rallying Reverend www.miniroadrunnerrallying.co.uk Engine data aquisition is fun

19-10-2005, 15:25	#12
Gwilo Undercover Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Manchester Posts: 3,687 Members Car: Rustwagon Thanks: 17 Thanked 7 Times in 7 Posts	let's get one thing absolutely straight... the question is in relation to staying overnight in a spare room. not sharing her room or anything even remotely suggestive. stop thinking with contents of your pants guys. please, just for a half hour. Never thought I'd see myself writing this, but so far, Spinndrift has been the voice of sanity... Andy. __________________

19-10-2005, 15:29	#16
spinndrift Briskodian Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Woking/Bolton Le Sands Posts: 6,642 Members Car: Roomster Thanks: 1 Thanked 7 Times in 7 Posts	I bumped into my ex in a while ago after not seeing her for a few years (she posts on here sometimes so I need to be careful). I was in a pub and bumped into her as I left the toilet - cue lots of crying and her telling me she loved me. It really screwed up my head. __________________ Rev. Andy The Rallying Reverend www.miniroadrunnerrallying.co.uk Engine data aquisition is fun

19-10-2005, 15:31	#17
devonutopia Mongreller Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Exeter / Devon Posts: 30,081 Members Car: Skoda Fabia Mongrel Images: 5 Thanks: 75 Thanked 352 Times in 295 Posts	If you're still "friends" (don't ask why I put that in inverted commas, I just did ) then I see no problem with it. Maybe with some alcohol to lubricate things, some honesty and truths will come forth? (PS: Thats not meant to sound as rude as it does...) __________________ Jason - Only a Skoda. Custom Fabia Bonnet Lifter Kits - £45! Click Me. Cheesy bonnet lifter video to "raise me up" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hMnGECEi5Oc See the mongrel's 260bhp Dyno Video!

19-10-2005, 15:40	#19
flatfourburble "Bones" Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Heathrow/Crewe Posts: 5,449 Members Car: Fabia vRS Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	I bumped into my X once, damn did she dent the bonnet as she went over it! But really aslong as you dont have a current flame and you keep your wits about you I cant see there being a big problem! __________________ Oh to have the internet back..................oh have I missed it

19-10-2005, 15:45	#22
lozgti Briskodian Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: midlands Posts: 5,719 Members Car: Thanks: 10 Thanked 12 Times in 12 Posts	I wouldn't want to see any of my exes again. If you are friends though it sounds fine

19-10-2005, 16:43	#24
cmcm789 Briskodian Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Northern Ireland Posts: 965 Members Car: Octy Elegance 110 TDI (2003) Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Unless you know exactly how she now feels about you and that its purely plutonic, and neither of you get the wrong idea then fine. Otherwise don't even think about it!! It would be the equivalent of walking blindfolded into a mine field with only the use of your tackle to find a way through to the other side!! Now, think about it, do you still want to do it?? JD __________________ Octy Elegance TDI (110bhp)

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