Found out my Grandad needs a operation

Skodaboy1983 · 29-05-2008, 07:35

Found out from my dad last night that my grandad needs a operation, we're not so sure what it is as my grandad does not want to worry us but going by what my dad was saying last night it is something neurological.That will explain all the visits to the hospital in the last week.Hope its not something serious, going to give him a call tonight and find out more.

philje123 · 29-05-2008, 08:06

Probably won't be as bad as it sounds mate... once you find out whats going on properly you'll feel a lot better.

If the hospital and staff are anything as nice as they are in the hospital im sat in at the mo then he'll be in safe hands!

Skodaboy1983 · 29-05-2008, 08:14

cheers mate,

Yeah hoping it's nothing serious, he's a tough old man, always very active at thwe age of 81 always in his garden or scaring me when he's on the roof fixing the tv ariel.

UncleRic · 29-05-2008, 08:15

Fingers crossed its nothing too bad mate. I've been in a similar situation to you in the last few months and as philje123 mentioned, your Grandad will be in safe hands whatever the situation.

ap0gee · 29-05-2008, 08:23

Best wishes to him - I'm sure he'll be fine!

Johnny50 · 29-05-2008, 08:54

Best wishes to him Davy.

If he's still Rockin and Rollin at 81, he'll take it in his stride i'm sure.

And if it were something serious, i'm sure he'd tell you.

Skodaboy1983 · 29-05-2008, 08:56

cheers guys

Babs · 29-05-2008, 17:11

I wish him well mate, sure it'll all be fine

postmanpat · 29-05-2008, 17:15

Give him my best mate, sure it will all be ok.

Captain Scarlet · 29-05-2008, 20:37

Best wishes from Mr & Mrs Scarlet, and fingers crossed it's nothing too serious. Keep your chin up.

Skodaboy1983 · 29-05-2008, 22:16

Cheers guys,

well my dad and auntie today have been trying to get out of him what type of operation it is but to no such luck, and my mum is trying to get my dad along to the hospital with him so he does not go alone.

Davy

MudPuppy · 29-05-2008, 23:06

I hope everything goes well for him.

I've been in a similar situation too; my grandad had to go into hospital a couple of years ago, we all worried about him but it didn't bother him in the slightest. I'm sure it'll all be OK. Fingers crossed for him.

Kay.

heresmo · 30-05-2008, 11:00

Hi. Do you know if your grandad will actually have the operation, as well as knowing that he seemingly needs one? They normally do pre-op checks and tests, so if he's passed those the surgeon and anaesthetist must be pretty confident of success or they wouldn't go ahead with it. Assuming they are going ahead, I hope he doesn't have to wait too long with it preying on his mind. Try to be positive so that your concern doesn't show too much

We'll all be rooting for him

Mo

Skodaboy1983 · 31-05-2008, 22:41

Quote:

Originally Posted by heresmo

Hi. Do you know if your grandad will actually have the operation, as well as knowing that he seemingly needs one? They normally do pre-op checks and tests, so if he's passed those the surgeon and anaesthetist must be pretty confident of success or they wouldn't go ahead with it. Assuming they are going ahead, I hope he doesn't have to wait too long with it preying on his mind. Try to be positive so that your concern doesn't show too much

We'll all be rooting for him

Mo

He had some sort of tests in the last couple of weeks so not sure if that was anything to do with the operation.

Davy

Skodaboy1983 · 02-06-2008, 07:57

Hi all,

Just a wee update and a confusing one.

Was up at my grandads yesterday and he was asking me to write on bits of paper his next of kin and all the medication he is on when I asked him what it is for.

My Grandad goes "I don't know, my GP does not know (He called them to find out but they don't have any idea!!), so I'm going to say to them on Thursday that I'm confused to see why I have to go"

I seen the letter the hospital sent and it tells you nothing on it apart from a general anasethic he will undergo.

I think my dad is going with him on Thursday to hear what is being said and what it is for to put his mind at rest and so that he can tell us so we are not worrying about it.

heresmo · 03-06-2008, 12:17

Hi. I read your post and rather hoped someone in the know with the NHS would reply and I'm sure someone will once they see it

What follows is just my thoughts and what I know from my own experience.

I can understand your discomfort with not having enough information to feel comfortable with what's happening at the moment. It would seem that your Grandad has been assessed as needing an operation and I'm speculating that they are still looking at this.

Again, all in my experience: It's quite usual to make sure that "next of kin" details are up to date before any sort of surgery is planned. I think that is a legal requirement re any decisions that could only be made by that person, but it's quite usual to offer another person as "someone to contact".

Re medications, if your Grandad is not sure, that would be better referred back to his GP to say what he's been prescribed (rather than you checking whatever bottles are in his cupboard which might have been superseded). The hospital would probably know that already. That is different from asking your Grandad directly which pills he is actually taking. Some medications need to be stopped a while before an operation whilst some have to continue to be taken - it depends what they are and what they are for.

If an operation is on the cards under general anaesthetic, they will make lots of checks beforehand and just won't do it if they're not happy with the results.

Your Grandad's GP really will know what's happening or at least the state of progress (as hospitals automatically keep GP informed) and why such letters have been sent to your Grandad, though it could be difficult for you to get much out of them if you are not "next of kin", and, even if you were, his GP or the hospital would only divulge so much because of patient confidentiality. Generally though, if you ask questions of them, they will tell you as much as they're allowed to. I find that it can help to ask, "If you can't answer that question, what can you tell me?" *sounding clearly concerned as being concerned*

In your shoes, I'd just ask some questions of people who could give me answers. It's hard for lots of reasons if you don't live close by, so just have to be thankful that Alexander Graham Bell invented the telephone...

Best
Mo

Skodaboy1983 · 05-06-2008, 23:10

Hi all, a wee update to my grandad.

His operation is for lesions on the bladder and he goes for a explortry op a week on Monday, before they decide if another operation is in order.

Puts my mind at rest.

Davy

Johnny50 · 06-06-2008, 08:11

Is he going into the Western Davy ?

swedishskoda · 06-06-2008, 08:20

Quote:

Originally Posted by Skodaboy1983

Hi all, a wee update to my grandad.

His operation is for lesions on the bladder and he goes for a explortry op a week on Monday, before they decide if another operation is in order.

Puts my mind at rest.

Davy

Ah: not a neurological operation then, but an urological

Piece of cake (I hope), since your Grandad seems to be a tough guy he'll be back home in a tick.

Skodaboy1983 · 06-06-2008, 08:29

Johnny50 - Aye it will be the western, he is never out of that place.

Skodaboy1983 · 06-06-2008, 08:30

SwedishSkoda- Many thanks, I don't think it bothers him about going to the operation but he is just annoyed he can't play his bowls when he goes in, he missed his game yesterday.

Johnny50 · 06-06-2008, 08:45

Quote:

Originally Posted by Skodaboy1983

Johnny50 - Aye it will be the western, he is never out of that place.

He'll be fine there then.

Thats where i was over xmas when i got taken in, they're a good bunch there.

Skodaboy1983 · 06-06-2008, 09:04

The western is a good bunch of guys!

My only fear is that I don't want to lose my grandad to this type of cancer as this is what my gran died of seven years ago! I'vfe grown really close to my grandad since then.

skodagirl1985 · 06-06-2008, 10:44

Quote:

Originally Posted by Skodaboy1983

The western is a good bunch of guys!

My only fear is that I don't want to lose my grandad to this type of cancer as this is what my gran died of seven years ago! I'vfe grown really close to my grandad since then.

Try not to worry easier said than done I know.

Don't know if I have ever told you about my Gran who had cancer. She got cancer back in 1994 or so. But she pulled through and lived another good 5 years. She was a remarkable lady. I tell you the last 5 years of her life she lived her life to the full.

I am here for you.

Skodaboy1983 · 06-06-2008, 10:52

Thanks Skodagirl - I will tell you more about it after work or maybe at the weekend

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Skodaboy1983 Skoda Junkie! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: East Lothian Posts: 9,780 Members Car: Skoda Fabia VRS 130 Thanks: 387 Thanked 271 Times in 263 Posts	Found out my Grandad needs a operation (UPDATE) Found out from my dad last night that my grandad needs a operation, we're not so sure what it is as my grandad does not want to worry us but going by what my dad was saying last night it is something neurological.That will explain all the visits to the hospital in the last week.Hope its not something serious, going to give him a call tonight and find out more. __________________ 05 Lemon Yellow Fabia vRS, PD160, Green cotton filter, Stripes and B pilar Graphics, Cupra Splitter, Aero Wipers, Rear Number plate surround, silvertec indicators, and led side lights, Forge Strut Brace, Black vRS Alloys, Whiteline ARB!! Soon to come: A wee nip and tuck, fresh look Last edited by Skodaboy1983; 02-06-2008 at 07:53.

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philje123 Briskodian Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: York Posts: 2,015 Members Car: Skoda Felicia Laurin & Klement 1.3 Thanks: 62 Thanked 106 Times in 97 Posts	Re: Found out my Grandad needs a operation Probably won't be as bad as it sounds mate... once you find out whats going on properly you'll feel a lot better. If the hospital and staff are anything as nice as they are in the hospital im sat in at the mo then he'll be in safe hands! __________________ 96 Felicia Laurin & Klement 1.3 spi Hatchback called Nelly

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Skodaboy1983 Skoda Junkie! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: East Lothian Posts: 9,780 Members Car: Skoda Fabia VRS 130 Thanks: 387 Thanked 271 Times in 263 Posts	Re: Found out my Grandad needs a operation cheers mate, Yeah hoping it's nothing serious, he's a tough old man, always very active at thwe age of 81 always in his garden or scaring me when he's on the roof fixing the tv ariel. __________________ 05 Lemon Yellow Fabia vRS, PD160, Green cotton filter, Stripes and B pilar Graphics, Cupra Splitter, Aero Wipers, Rear Number plate surround, silvertec indicators, and led side lights, Forge Strut Brace, Black vRS Alloys, Whiteline ARB!! Soon to come: A wee nip and tuck, fresh look

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Johnny50 Here's Johnny ! Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Edinburgh Posts: 5,457 Members Car: Fabia vRS Thanks: 262 Thanked 174 Times in 170 Posts	Re: Found out my Grandad needs a operation Best wishes to him Davy. If he's still Rockin and Rollin at 81, he'll take it in his stride i'm sure. And if it were something serious, i'm sure he'd tell you.

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Skodaboy1983 Skoda Junkie! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: East Lothian Posts: 9,780 Members Car: Skoda Fabia VRS 130 Thanks: 387 Thanked 271 Times in 263 Posts	Re: Found out my Grandad needs a operation cheers guys __________________ 05 Lemon Yellow Fabia vRS, PD160, Green cotton filter, Stripes and B pilar Graphics, Cupra Splitter, Aero Wipers, Rear Number plate surround, silvertec indicators, and led side lights, Forge Strut Brace, Black vRS Alloys, Whiteline ARB!! Soon to come: A wee nip and tuck, fresh look

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Babs Briskodian Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Newport/Preston Posts: 4,153 Members Car: Skoda Octavia vRS Thanks: 216 Thanked 139 Times in 123 Posts	Re: Found out my Grandad needs a operation I wish him well mate, sure it'll all be fine __________________ - Andrew Octavia vRS For Sale / Bosch Rotary Polisher For Sale

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Skodaboy1983 Skoda Junkie! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: East Lothian Posts: 9,780 Members Car: Skoda Fabia VRS 130 Thanks: 387 Thanked 271 Times in 263 Posts	Re: Found out my Grandad needs a operation Cheers guys, well my dad and auntie today have been trying to get out of him what type of operation it is but to no such luck, and my mum is trying to get my dad along to the hospital with him so he does not go alone. Davy __________________ 05 Lemon Yellow Fabia vRS, PD160, Green cotton filter, Stripes and B pilar Graphics, Cupra Splitter, Aero Wipers, Rear Number plate surround, silvertec indicators, and led side lights, Forge Strut Brace, Black vRS Alloys, Whiteline ARB!! Soon to come: A wee nip and tuck, fresh look

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MudPuppy Seeking sanity Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Edinburgh Posts: 1,625 Members Car: Fabia vRS Thanks: 85 Thanked 66 Times in 63 Posts	Re: Found out my Grandad needs a operation I hope everything goes well for him. I've been in a similar situation too; my grandad had to go into hospital a couple of years ago, we all worried about him but it didn't bother him in the slightest. I'm sure it'll all be OK. Fingers crossed for him. Kay. __________________

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heresmo Briskodian Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 12,554 Members Car: Thanks: 50 Thanked 143 Times in 123 Posts	Re: Found out my Grandad needs a operation Hi. Do you know if your grandad will actually have the operation, as well as knowing that he seemingly needs one? They normally do pre-op checks and tests, so if he's passed those the surgeon and anaesthetist must be pretty confident of success or they wouldn't go ahead with it. Assuming they are going ahead, I hope he doesn't have to wait too long with it preying on his mind. Try to be positive so that your concern doesn't show too much We'll all be rooting for him Mo __________________

02-06-2008, 07:57	#15
Skodaboy1983 Skoda Junkie! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: East Lothian Posts: 9,780 Members Car: Skoda Fabia VRS 130 Thanks: 387 Thanked 271 Times in 263 Posts	Re: Found out my Grandad needs a operation Hi all, Just a wee update and a confusing one. Was up at my grandads yesterday and he was asking me to write on bits of paper his next of kin and all the medication he is on when I asked him what it is for. My Grandad goes "I don't know, my GP does not know (He called them to find out but they don't have any idea!!), so I'm going to say to them on Thursday that I'm confused to see why I have to go" I seen the letter the hospital sent and it tells you nothing on it apart from a general anasethic he will undergo. I think my dad is going with him on Thursday to hear what is being said and what it is for to put his mind at rest and so that he can tell us so we are not worrying about it. __________________ 05 Lemon Yellow Fabia vRS, PD160, Green cotton filter, Stripes and B pilar Graphics, Cupra Splitter, Aero Wipers, Rear Number plate surround, silvertec indicators, and led side lights, Forge Strut Brace, Black vRS Alloys, Whiteline ARB!! Soon to come: A wee nip and tuck, fresh look

03-06-2008, 12:17	#16
heresmo Briskodian Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 12,554 Members Car: Thanks: 50 Thanked 143 Times in 123 Posts	Re: Found out my Grandad needs a operation Hi. I read your post and rather hoped someone in the know with the NHS would reply and I'm sure someone will once they see it What follows is just my thoughts and what I know from my own experience. I can understand your discomfort with not having enough information to feel comfortable with what's happening at the moment. It would seem that your Grandad has been assessed as needing an operation and I'm speculating that they are still looking at this. Again, all in my experience: It's quite usual to make sure that "next of kin" details are up to date before any sort of surgery is planned. I think that is a legal requirement re any decisions that could only be made by that person, but it's quite usual to offer another person as "someone to contact". Re medications, if your Grandad is not sure, that would be better referred back to his GP to say what he's been prescribed (rather than you checking whatever bottles are in his cupboard which might have been superseded). The hospital would probably know that already. That is different from asking your Grandad directly which pills he is actually taking. Some medications need to be stopped a while before an operation whilst some have to continue to be taken - it depends what they are and what they are for. If an operation is on the cards under general anaesthetic, they will make lots of checks beforehand and just won't do it if they're not happy with the results. Your Grandad's GP really will know what's happening or at least the state of progress (as hospitals automatically keep GP informed) and why such letters have been sent to your Grandad, though it could be difficult for you to get much out of them if you are not "next of kin", and, even if you were, his GP or the hospital would only divulge so much because of patient confidentiality. Generally though, if you ask questions of them, they will tell you as much as they're allowed to. I find that it can help to ask, "If you can't answer that question, what can you tell me?" sounding clearly concerned as being concerned In your shoes, I'd just ask some questions of people who could give me answers. It's hard for lots of reasons if you don't live close by, so just have to be thankful that Alexander Graham Bell invented the telephone... Best Mo __________________

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Skodaboy1983 Skoda Junkie! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: East Lothian Posts: 9,780 Members Car: Skoda Fabia VRS 130 Thanks: 387 Thanked 271 Times in 263 Posts	Re: Found out my Grandad needs a operation Hi all, a wee update to my grandad. His operation is for lesions on the bladder and he goes for a explortry op a week on Monday, before they decide if another operation is in order. Puts my mind at rest. Davy __________________ 05 Lemon Yellow Fabia vRS, PD160, Green cotton filter, Stripes and B pilar Graphics, Cupra Splitter, Aero Wipers, Rear Number plate surround, silvertec indicators, and led side lights, Forge Strut Brace, Black vRS Alloys, Whiteline ARB!! Soon to come: A wee nip and tuck, fresh look

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Johnny50 Here's Johnny ! Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Edinburgh Posts: 5,457 Members Car: Fabia vRS Thanks: 262 Thanked 174 Times in 170 Posts	Re: Found out my Grandad needs a operation Is he going into the Western Davy ?

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Skodaboy1983 Skoda Junkie! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: East Lothian Posts: 9,780 Members Car: Skoda Fabia VRS 130 Thanks: 387 Thanked 271 Times in 263 Posts	Re: Found out my Grandad needs a operation Johnny50 - Aye it will be the western, he is never out of that place. __________________ 05 Lemon Yellow Fabia vRS, PD160, Green cotton filter, Stripes and B pilar Graphics, Cupra Splitter, Aero Wipers, Rear Number plate surround, silvertec indicators, and led side lights, Forge Strut Brace, Black vRS Alloys, Whiteline ARB!! Soon to come: A wee nip and tuck, fresh look

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Skodaboy1983 Skoda Junkie! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: East Lothian Posts: 9,780 Members Car: Skoda Fabia VRS 130 Thanks: 387 Thanked 271 Times in 263 Posts	Re: Found out my Grandad needs a operation SwedishSkoda- Many thanks, I don't think it bothers him about going to the operation but he is just annoyed he can't play his bowls when he goes in, he missed his game yesterday. __________________ 05 Lemon Yellow Fabia vRS, PD160, Green cotton filter, Stripes and B pilar Graphics, Cupra Splitter, Aero Wipers, Rear Number plate surround, silvertec indicators, and led side lights, Forge Strut Brace, Black vRS Alloys, Whiteline ARB!! Soon to come: A wee nip and tuck, fresh look

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Skodaboy1983 Skoda Junkie! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: East Lothian Posts: 9,780 Members Car: Skoda Fabia VRS 130 Thanks: 387 Thanked 271 Times in 263 Posts	Re: Found out my Grandad needs a operation The western is a good bunch of guys! My only fear is that I don't want to lose my grandad to this type of cancer as this is what my gran died of seven years ago! I'vfe grown really close to my grandad since then. __________________ 05 Lemon Yellow Fabia vRS, PD160, Green cotton filter, Stripes and B pilar Graphics, Cupra Splitter, Aero Wipers, Rear Number plate surround, silvertec indicators, and led side lights, Forge Strut Brace, Black vRS Alloys, Whiteline ARB!! Soon to come: A wee nip and tuck, fresh look

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Skodaboy1983 Skoda Junkie! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: East Lothian Posts: 9,780 Members Car: Skoda Fabia VRS 130 Thanks: 387 Thanked 271 Times in 263 Posts	Re: Found out my Grandad needs a operation Thanks Skodagirl - I will tell you more about it after work or maybe at the weekend __________________ 05 Lemon Yellow Fabia vRS, PD160, Green cotton filter, Stripes and B pilar Graphics, Cupra Splitter, Aero Wipers, Rear Number plate surround, silvertec indicators, and led side lights, Forge Strut Brace, Black vRS Alloys, Whiteline ARB!! Soon to come: A wee nip and tuck, fresh look