How old were you when you started having sprogs?

pixi · 14-09-2006, 18:17

I was in Monsoon today obviously checking out clothes for myself, when I couldn't help but notice the thoroughly gorgeous kids stuff they had. This is not a thread about how cute the clothes were but about how it made me feel. It surprised me to say the least but the time has come to admit to myself that I want kids and very soon!

I don't mind admitting that the thought of childbirth just fills me with complete fear and dread. I'm not talking about what most females must naturally feel, I mean it has actually stopped me from getting on with this child rearing mallarky. I have also thought about adoption from either this country or from further afield, although I recentely read an article about how difficult it is to adopt from less fortunet countries, let alone the ten grand that's needed to go with it. I don't want to be an old parent so I really need to get on with it

How old were you when you had your first child and do you think you were the right age at the time?

roblatus · 14-09-2006, 18:56

I was 32.

I never really was bothered about kids in my early and mid twentys, just like a lot of people these days. When i did decide i actually wanted to have kids i was thinking around the 30-32 area would be a good place to start.

Wouldn't be without either of them now though

texasjohn · 14-09-2006, 19:33

I can completely sympathise with your thoughts, not about childbirth itself, obviously, but perhaps not feeling quite 'ready' to take on the responsibility of having children. I'm 32 next month!

Lummox · 14-09-2006, 19:35

I'm 30 and the missus is 26, we had our Evie four weeks ago. And though Tracey will admit giving birth wasnt easy she doesnt remember alot of it and says it was all worth it.

Terry G · 14-09-2006, 19:55

I have two kids and I'm the ripe ol' age of 36... My first came along just before my 30th (My wifes' decision)

The thing is, nowadays there is much less stigma attached to "you should have kids now" as people are much more focussed on setting up their homes and getting in a few hols before the commitment of kids, so people are staring famlies later (it is your choice after all)

At the time I didn't feel 100% about starting a family, but a lot of people say the same thing. After becoming a dad I did wonder why I had waited so long (I'm a soppy old soul).

If it feels right, go for it.... It changes your life and priorities

Lummox · 14-09-2006, 19:58

We both wanted Evie alot and had been trying for a while, and despite the lack of sleep we dont regret it for a minute. I got my first smile from her this morning and it put me in a good mood for the whole day.

Terry G · 14-09-2006, 20:03

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lummox

I got my first smile from her this morning and it put me in a good mood for the whole day.

Its great isn't it?

Gives you a good reason to go to work (!) and if you've had a bad day you are greeted by unconditional love that fixes everything (aaah

)

Mine are still only 3 and 6, but the good times roll.

Not looking forward to when they hit their teens though!

radioone · 14-09-2006, 20:34

I was 21, and the wife is 22. We have lived together for 3 years, and been together for about 4.

We knew each other even before that though.

We had jessica in february, she was not planned, but is the best thing that has happened to us.

It doesn't ruin your life, like i got told of I have become the proud father I am, a Proud Octy L & K owner, and am training as a manager, so in about 12/18 months will be on about 3 times as much pay.

Chris

pixi · 14-09-2006, 20:39

Quote:

Originally Posted by texasjohn

I can completely sympathise with your thoughts, not about childbirth itself, obviously, but perhaps not feeling quite 'ready' to take on the responsibility of having children. I'm 32 next month!

Maybe my post came over a bit vague. What I'm saying is I do feel ready and it's something that's crept up on me I suppose. It really is something to see guys with their kids, I know it shouldn't be any different to see a bloke rather than a woman but it just is. I saw some bloke walking out of Next with his baby in one of those front holder things, I think my heart melted there and then

Terry G · 14-09-2006, 20:43

Quote:

Originally Posted by pixi

I saw some bloke walking out of Next with his baby in one of those front holder things, I think my heart melted there and then

I believe some 'gentlemen' have used this method to attract the ladies....

pixi · 14-09-2006, 20:47

Lol, he was kinda cute

but puppies have always done it for me

DangerMouse · 14-09-2006, 20:48

Quote:

Originally Posted by pixi

I was in Monsoon today obviously checking out clothes for myself, when I couldn't help but notice the thoroughly gorgeous kids stuff they had. This is not a thread about how cute the clothes were but about how it made me feel. It surprised me to say the least but the time has come to admit to myself that I want kids and very soon!

I don't mind admitting that the thought of childbirth just fills me with complete fear and dread. I'm not talking about what most females must naturally feel, I mean it has actually stopped me from getting on with this child rearing mallarky. I have also thought about adoption from either this country or from further afield, although I recentely read an article about how difficult it is to adopt from less fortunet countries, let alone the ten grand that's needed to go with it. I don't want to be an old parent so I really need to get on with it

How old were you when you had your first child and do you think you were the right age at the time?

It's not what you were asking, but adopting is well worth doing ( I speak from personal experience), but perhaps address why you're so fearfull of childbirth first

stumpy1 · 14-09-2006, 20:48

I'm 32 and the missus 35. It hits you like a freight train, but somehow it is all worthwhile. Though the memory of his first nappy will haunt me forever

pixi · 14-09-2006, 20:52

Quote:

Originally Posted by DangerMouse

perhaps address why you're so fearfull of childbirth first

The obvious

I mean, can you even begin to imagine?

Johnwg · 14-09-2006, 21:03

One bottle of wine too many with the other half when I was 22 (she was 20) and hay presto 9 months later at the tender ages of 23 and 21 we were parents to a little girl.........

Just what we needed in retrospect, made us get our arses into gear and sort our lives out

roblatus · 14-09-2006, 21:08

Like others have said on here already, it is not easy being a parent and when you have kids it does mean your life changes.

We used to be out every weekend pubbing and clubbing but somehow i just don't miss it at all these days, not one little bit.

I would sooner spend ten minutes with my family than any amount of time fighting my way to the bar in a pub/club on an evening, shouting to be heard, paying stupid money for drinks etc

Don't get me wrong i like a drink and all but nowadays in my life my kids are everything to me. Everything i do is to try and make them and out family in general have a better life.

You can have the worst day ever but when you get home and your kids run up to you and give you a hug and say they have missed you, everything is ok again and you can't put a price on that sort of feeling.

ag.morley · 14-09-2006, 21:13

Quote:

Originally Posted by Johnwg

One bottle of wine too many with the other half when I was 22 (she was 20) and hay presto 9 months later at the tender ages of 23 and 21 we were parents to a little girl.........

Did you call her Chardonnay....

ScoobyChris · 14-09-2006, 21:27

Me and Em were 27 (Jess was born 3 days before my 28th

) when we had our first. Been a wonderful experience and can't imagine life without her

Next opened a store a 10 minute walk from my house at Christmas and Jess is now the best dressed baby in town! I'm wondering about approaching them and seeing if they need a walking advert for their stores

Chris

skudupnorth · 14-09-2006, 21:29

38 was my "lets have kids" thought ! Now have two wonderful little girls which ADD to our life and do not hinder it in any way.Both come put with me and my much better half to any event involving my terrible passion of old cars or aircraft or walking in the countryside ect,ect.Just completed 1500 miles to and from southern Germany without a problem.As for childbirth,don't fancy it myself,credit to all women on that one !

pixi · 14-09-2006, 21:38

Quote:

Originally Posted by ScoobyChris

Me and Em were 27 when we had our first

Chris

Something you would like to share with us Chris?

***ncarring*** · 14-09-2006, 21:43

I was 24 and Linda 28 when we had our first. I have posted many times about my opinions on parent age - I'm firmly in the young parent camp (I'm not talking about teenage mums btw). Children are hard work as well as fun. My sister had her first 3 years ago at 42 ish, and is already complaining how tired she gets looking after a 3 year old. Get on with it!

pixi · 14-09-2006, 21:45

Quote:

Originally Posted by ncarring

I was 24 and Linda 28 when we had our first. I have posted many times about my opinions on parent age - I'm firmly in the young parent camp (I'm not talking about teenage mums btw). Children are hard work as well as fun. My sister had her first 3 years ago at 42 ish, and is already complaining how tired she gets looking after a 3 year old. Get on with it!

I am pleased to announce that I am fit and healthy with a mental age well below my real age

Fluffmeister · 14-09-2006, 21:46

I was 36 and Deb's was 33 ..... twins as well

20VLIL · 14-09-2006, 21:56

Had our first last October...me at 29 and the wife at 34.
Decided to crack on as we're not getting any younger and our next is due in January!!

whykickamoocow · 15-09-2006, 02:07

I'm 30 and my missis had 2 little girls 4 weeks ago today.
(the reason why I bought a estate VRS)

Having twins is hard work and I never wanted kids didn't intrest me one little bit and I was in the process of wanting to emigrate when we found out she was pregnant. At 30 I feel too young to be a dad to be honest

But they are both asleep beside me at this very mo kicking out little baby snores some how all my dreams and goals have gone out the window and I don't mind one little bit.

14-09-2006, 18:17	#1
pixi Naughty Pix! Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Writing in these boxes is soooo last year! Posts: 6,307 Members Car: 06 Fabia vrs Thanks: 106 Thanked 93 Times in 51 Posts	How old were you when you started having sprogs? I was in Monsoon today obviously checking out clothes for myself, when I couldn't help but notice the thoroughly gorgeous kids stuff they had. This is not a thread about how cute the clothes were but about how it made me feel. It surprised me to say the least but the time has come to admit to myself that I want kids and very soon! I don't mind admitting that the thought of childbirth just fills me with complete fear and dread. I'm not talking about what most females must naturally feel, I mean it has actually stopped me from getting on with this child rearing mallarky. I have also thought about adoption from either this country or from further afield, although I recentely read an article about how difficult it is to adopt from less fortunet countries, let alone the ten grand that's needed to go with it. I don't want to be an old parent so I really need to get on with it How old were you when you had your first child and do you think you were the right age at the time? __________________

14-09-2006, 18:56	#2
roblatus Briskodian Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Beverley, East Yorkshire Posts: 1,054 Members Car: Mazda MX-5 RS Spec Thanks: 0 Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts	Re: How old were you when you started having sprogs? I was 32. I never really was bothered about kids in my early and mid twentys, just like a lot of people these days. When i did decide i actually wanted to have kids i was thinking around the 30-32 area would be a good place to start. Wouldn't be without either of them now though __________________ 1998 Mazda Roadster 1.8 RS Spec. spending a lot of time sideways

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Terry G Briskodian Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Fareham Posts: 371 Members Car: Octy vRS Thanks: 5 Thanked 4 Times in 4 Posts	Re: How old were you when you started having sprogs? I have two kids and I'm the ripe ol' age of 36... My first came along just before my 30th (My wifes' decision) The thing is, nowadays there is much less stigma attached to "you should have kids now" as people are much more focussed on setting up their homes and getting in a few hols before the commitment of kids, so people are staring famlies later (it is your choice after all) At the time I didn't feel 100% about starting a family, but a lot of people say the same thing. After becoming a dad I did wonder why I had waited so long (I'm a soppy old soul). If it feels right, go for it.... It changes your life and priorities

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Lummox Cupra Bush King Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Newport Pagnell Posts: 22,458 Members Car: Mk2 Golf GTi 16v and building a 20VT MK2. Images: 2 Thanks: 22 Thanked 753 Times in 633 Posts	Re: How old were you when you started having sprogs? We both wanted Evie alot and had been trying for a while, and despite the lack of sleep we dont regret it for a minute. I got my first smile from her this morning and it put me in a good mood for the whole day. __________________ www.unit18.co.uk Remapping Service now available, PM for details.

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pixi Naughty Pix! Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Writing in these boxes is soooo last year! Posts: 6,307 Members Car: 06 Fabia vrs Thanks: 106 Thanked 93 Times in 51 Posts	Re: How old were you when you started having sprogs? Lol, he was kinda cute but puppies have always done it for me __________________

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Johnwg Briskodian Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: South Lakes (Grange Over Sands) Posts: 2,072 Members Car: Octavia II VRS Thanks: 66 Thanked 57 Times in 56 Posts	Re: How old were you when you started having sprogs? One bottle of wine too many with the other half when I was 22 (she was 20) and hay presto 9 months later at the tender ages of 23 and 21 we were parents to a little girl......... Just what we needed in retrospect, made us get our arses into gear and sort our lives out

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roblatus Briskodian Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Beverley, East Yorkshire Posts: 1,054 Members Car: Mazda MX-5 RS Spec Thanks: 0 Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts	Re: How old were you when you started having sprogs? Like others have said on here already, it is not easy being a parent and when you have kids it does mean your life changes. We used to be out every weekend pubbing and clubbing but somehow i just don't miss it at all these days, not one little bit. I would sooner spend ten minutes with my family than any amount of time fighting my way to the bar in a pub/club on an evening, shouting to be heard, paying stupid money for drinks etc Don't get me wrong i like a drink and all but nowadays in my life my kids are everything to me. Everything i do is to try and make them and out family in general have a better life. You can have the worst day ever but when you get home and your kids run up to you and give you a hug and say they have missed you, everything is ok again and you can't put a price on that sort of feeling. __________________ 1998 Mazda Roadster 1.8 RS Spec. spending a lot of time sideways

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ScoobyChris Briskodian Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Andover Posts: 18,195 Members Car: Fiat Panda Thanks: 15 Thanked 336 Times in 290 Posts	Re: How old were you when you started having sprogs? Me and Em were 27 (Jess was born 3 days before my 28th ) when we had our first. Been a wonderful experience and can't imagine life without her Next opened a store a 10 minute walk from my house at Christmas and Jess is now the best dressed baby in town! I'm wondering about approaching them and seeing if they need a walking advert for their stores Chris __________________ Holding up the traffic in a little Italian..........

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