I'm worried...

primey · 03-09-2006, 00:20

I dont usually post in this forum, but the wife has been to see the quack recently becuase she has found a large lump in one of her breasts. She found it a few weeks ago but only told me this morning. She is now being refered to the local hospital.

She did not tell me because she knew it would throw me into a panic, and it has. All I can think of now is worst case ( probably being selfish) but its all thats going through my mind...

She's only just turned 30!

I read about cancer in the paper, and on TV. A work colleague of mine has been rushed into hostpital for cancer of the pancreas last week, and he is only 32.

It's really freaking me out, but r'lass is as calm as anything.....

Is there summat wrong with me considering she is as cool as she is?

I cant fault her.

gillywibble · 03-09-2006, 00:35

There is quite clearly nothing wrong with you for caring about your wife. I am sure many of us here would feel the same.

Having said that, please don't panic unncessarily. It may well be harmless, particularly as your wife is young.

Whatever happens, the very best of luck.

ScoobyChris · 03-09-2006, 01:10

If I was told that, I'd be feeling exactly the same as you! Best thing to do is to just be supportive, be positive and wait for the doctor's diagnosis

Hopefully will turn out to be nothing

Chris

Lady Elanore · 03-09-2006, 01:22

One of my dearest friends discovered a lump in her breast in her early 30s. She was very upset naturally, but her boyfriend and all her close personal friends remained positive and supportive whilst she went for scans and checks. She says to this day how everyone helped (even though we were all naturally upset and slightly concerned behind her back) with their attitude. The good news is her scans proved negative and when a few years later she discovered another lump she and us, were much better prepared for it and again it turned out to be a harmless cyst. Even better news was her Doctor changed her brand of Pill and she has had no further problems.

So fingers crossed for your wife and yourself and try to remain positive for your wife’s sake. I have an idea how hard this must be for you, but obviously my experience was not anywhere near as intense or personal as yours.

I wish you both good health and the ability to remain positive.

Amanda xx

Octygone · 03-09-2006, 08:58

Had something similar recently......yes you will and do worry all you can do is be there for her, support her, go with her while she has the tests done and hold her hand, don't let her go through it alone, work through it together and be positive together.......the very best to the both of you.
Rob

mdk1 · 03-09-2006, 13:42

Our thoughts are with you both.
Mike & Lynz

Jimmy · 03-09-2006, 18:20

Natural reaction when something like this happens to someone you love and care for but try to remain positive. I'm certainly no expert on such things but a lump could be caused by many things and not just the big 'C'. Your wife is young and whatever has caused the lump has been found early I assume which are both positive things to bear in mind.

Just a thought but is there a history of breast cancer in your wifes family??

primey · 03-09-2006, 20:02

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jimmy

Just a thought but is there a history of breast cancer in your wifes family??

Not that I'm aware of, but the mother in law has had a couple of cists removed quite a few years ago, so I'm hoping its somthing as "simple" as that....

It's more the shock than anything I suppose......

ChrisRs · 03-09-2006, 20:04

I had no idea Paul or I would have said something today. My thoughts are with you both

Moose · 03-09-2006, 21:49

As the others have said, it could well be harmless. At least you're both doing the right thing and arranging for it to be looked at at an early stage.

Good luck

***ncarring*** · 03-09-2006, 21:56

Strength in numbers. Keep your chin up, wait until the tests are done. Take things a day at a time.

primey · 03-09-2006, 22:55

Thanks for all the positive encouragement. I'll tell her the Skoda community is thinking of her.

We'll take each day as it comes, but have no real news until the hospital confirms her appointement to be looked at properly. She is keeping a very stong mental attitude, and TBH, thats helped to calm me down a lot.

Cheers Folks..

H Bomb · 03-09-2006, 23:12

Its the natural reaction, if you hear your partner / relative / friend is ill. Hang in there, be there for her, and remember that a lump isn't always so serious.

Big hug to you both

Heather

Chris GB · 04-09-2006, 00:21

Understandable that you are worried. I am sure your support for her is a great help. Hope it turns out to be nothing serious. Know a couple of women who have had benign cysts removed.

Chris

kerberos · 04-09-2006, 00:43

Best of luck to both of you and your wife. I can say much more than what others have said but be there for her.

heresmo · 04-09-2006, 11:30

FWIW I often think that people deal with things far better when it's themselves and much, much worse when one is a bystander (well, if I'm anything to go by at least).

I think the biggest hurdle is getting over the shock of "what might be" then one can settle down to how one can take whatever it is in one's stride. It's a very hard thing to stay in the middle of the two ends of emotion, so deep breaths and tell yourself you will cope with either. Easier said than done, so fortitude is my favourite word at these times.

There's an expression about walking in another man's shoes. My best advice would be to put your own shoes on and walk in them, cos only the man who's shoes they are knows the direction in which he's going.

My best regards
Mo

03-09-2006, 00:20	#1
primey Briskodian Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: South Yorkshire Posts: 841 Members Car: Silver Octavia vRS Thanks: 4 Thanked 7 Times in 7 Posts	I'm worried... I dont usually post in this forum, but the wife has been to see the quack recently becuase she has found a large lump in one of her breasts. She found it a few weeks ago but only told me this morning. She is now being refered to the local hospital. She did not tell me because she knew it would throw me into a panic, and it has. All I can think of now is worst case ( probably being selfish) but its all thats going through my mind... She's only just turned 30! I read about cancer in the paper, and on TV. A work colleague of mine has been rushed into hostpital for cancer of the pancreas last week, and he is only 32. It's really freaking me out, but r'lass is as calm as anything..... Is there summat wrong with me considering she is as cool as she is? I cant fault her. __________________ Paul My Car - Nightfire Blue Superb - 2.5 V6 TDi - Dark Leather Interior - Xenons - Serious Pimp Tints - Sat Nav - Detchable Towbar - Green Cotton Panel Filter - MINTEX Xtreme Performance Brake Pads - Chrome Wing Mirrors - 18" New RS4 Rims - Neuspeed Lower Rear ARB - Pipewerx Custom Stainless Exhaust with 200cel Cat - Custom Code PHASE II Remap - Huge Smile - Can my bank account keep up? ...

03-09-2006, 00:35	#2
gillywibble Cuthbert Dibble Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Watching Tom peeping at Lady Godiva. Posts: 7,148 Members Car: Octavia Elegance 2.0 Tdi Thanks: 230 Thanked 262 Times in 220 Posts	Re: I'm worried... There is quite clearly nothing wrong with you for caring about your wife. I am sure many of us here would feel the same. Having said that, please don't panic unncessarily. It may well be harmless, particularly as your wife is young. Whatever happens, the very best of luck. __________________ I drink, therefore I spam.

03-09-2006, 01:10	#3
ScoobyChris Briskodian Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Andover Posts: 18,195 Members Car: Fiat Panda Thanks: 15 Thanked 336 Times in 290 Posts	Re: I'm worried... If I was told that, I'd be feeling exactly the same as you! Best thing to do is to just be supportive, be positive and wait for the doctor's diagnosis Hopefully will turn out to be nothing Chris __________________ Holding up the traffic in a little Italian..........

03-09-2006, 01:22	#4
Lady Elanore Geordie Lass Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: in the ceiling watching you..... Posts: 11,090 Members Car: BMW 1 series Thanks: 221 Thanked 230 Times in 139 Posts	Re: I'm worried... One of my dearest friends discovered a lump in her breast in her early 30s. She was very upset naturally, but her boyfriend and all her close personal friends remained positive and supportive whilst she went for scans and checks. She says to this day how everyone helped (even though we were all naturally upset and slightly concerned behind her back) with their attitude. The good news is her scans proved negative and when a few years later she discovered another lump she and us, were much better prepared for it and again it turned out to be a harmless cyst. Even better news was her Doctor changed her brand of Pill and she has had no further problems. So fingers crossed for your wife and yourself and try to remain positive for your wife’s sake. I have an idea how hard this must be for you, but obviously my experience was not anywhere near as intense or personal as yours. I wish you both good health and the ability to remain positive. Amanda xx __________________ . Amanda - All's fair in Love and Car

03-09-2006, 08:58	#5
Octygone Old Git Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Wiltshire Posts: 6,822 Members Car: Octavia II tdi ..for now Thanks: 182 Thanked 116 Times in 75 Posts	Re: I'm worried... Had something similar recently......yes you will and do worry all you can do is be there for her, support her, go with her while she has the tests done and hold her hand, don't let her go through it alone, work through it together and be positive together.......the very best to the both of you. Rob __________________

03-09-2006, 13:42	#6
mdk1 go green Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Rochester, Kent Posts: 4,173 Members Car: Roomy 3 & Fabia Thanks: 163 Thanked 132 Times in 116 Posts	Re: I'm worried... Our thoughts are with you both. Mike & Lynz __________________ Mike. Mine Skoda Roomster 3 TDI in matallic Anthracite Grey MKLJK Swmbo's Skoda Fabia 2.0I Elegance in Dark matallic Blue MKLJK

03-09-2006, 18:20	#7
Jimmy Briskodian Join Date: May 2003 Location: North East Posts: 2,446 Members Car: Octavia ahem Hearse Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: I'm worried... Natural reaction when something like this happens to someone you love and care for but try to remain positive. I'm certainly no expert on such things but a lump could be caused by many things and not just the big 'C'. Your wife is young and whatever has caused the lump has been found early I assume which are both positive things to bear in mind. Just a thought but is there a history of breast cancer in your wifes family??

03-09-2006, 20:04	#9
ChrisRs Skonda Fabic Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 4,980 Members Car: Thanks: 17 Thanked 20 Times in 19 Posts	Re: I'm worried... I had no idea Paul or I would have said something today. My thoughts are with you both

03-09-2006, 21:49	#10
Moose Briskodian Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: I'm a monkey from outer space, woooooooo ahhhhhhhhh hehe hooohaa Posts: 4,938 Members Car: None Thanks: 0 Thanked 9 Times in 9 Posts	Re: I'm worried... As the others have said, it could well be harmless. At least you're both doing the right thing and arranging for it to be looked at at an early stage. Good luck __________________ Sunlight Silver MX-5 1.8 Sport

03-09-2006, 21:56	#11
*ncarring* Don't talk, drive! Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: The B roads of Britain Posts: 12,953 Members Car: 1983 Porsche 928S / 1972 MGB GT Thanks: 16 Thanked 94 Times in 77 Posts	Re: I'm worried... Strength in numbers. Keep your chin up, wait until the tests are done. Take things a day at a time. __________________ Nick North Wiltshire RoADAR

03-09-2006, 22:55	#12
primey Briskodian Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: South Yorkshire Posts: 841 Members Car: Silver Octavia vRS Thanks: 4 Thanked 7 Times in 7 Posts	Re: I'm worried... Thanks for all the positive encouragement. I'll tell her the Skoda community is thinking of her. We'll take each day as it comes, but have no real news until the hospital confirms her appointement to be looked at properly. She is keeping a very stong mental attitude, and TBH, thats helped to calm me down a lot. Cheers Folks.. __________________ Paul My Car - Nightfire Blue Superb - 2.5 V6 TDi - Dark Leather Interior - Xenons - Serious Pimp Tints - Sat Nav - Detchable Towbar - Green Cotton Panel Filter - MINTEX Xtreme Performance Brake Pads - Chrome Wing Mirrors - 18" New RS4 Rims - Neuspeed Lower Rear ARB - Pipewerx Custom Stainless Exhaust with 200cel Cat - Custom Code PHASE II Remap - Huge Smile - Can my bank account keep up? ...

03-09-2006, 23:12	#13
H Bomb Briskodian Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Carlisle UK Posts: 241 Members Car: Yellow Fabia Sport Thanks: 0 Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts	Re: I'm worried... Its the natural reaction, if you hear your partner / relative / friend is ill. Hang in there, be there for her, and remember that a lump isn't always so serious. Big hug to you both Heather __________________ Furby Girlie Yellow Fabia Sport 1.2 White Citroen Berlingo 1.9 Furby Girlie

04-09-2006, 00:21	#14
Chris GB Briskodian Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: East UK Posts: 2,588 Members Car: Mini Cooper D Thanks: 18 Thanked 43 Times in 26 Posts	Re: I'm worried... Understandable that you are worried. I am sure your support for her is a great help. Hope it turns out to be nothing serious. Know a couple of women who have had benign cysts removed. Chris __________________ Red Fabia vRS. Gone but not forgotten. Chilli Red / white Mini Cooper Diesel with dual controls. Silver 53 MR2. Mods: PPE 4>1 manifold \| PPE Mangnaflow high flow cat \| Blueflame catback exhaust \| Pikey inlet mod \| 3.0 Racing Chassis stiffening brace kit \| BC Racing fully adjustable coilovers \| TF loud. Details here My MR2 Page

04-09-2006, 00:43	#15
kerberos Briskodian Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 30 Members Car: Renault Clio Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: I'm worried... Best of luck to both of you and your wife. I can say much more than what others have said but be there for her.

04-09-2006, 11:30	#16
heresmo Briskodian Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 12,554 Members Car: Thanks: 50 Thanked 143 Times in 123 Posts	Re: I'm worried... FWIW I often think that people deal with things far better when it's themselves and much, much worse when one is a bystander (well, if I'm anything to go by at least). I think the biggest hurdle is getting over the shock of "what might be" then one can settle down to how one can take whatever it is in one's stride. It's a very hard thing to stay in the middle of the two ends of emotion, so deep breaths and tell yourself you will cope with either. Easier said than done, so fortitude is my favourite word at these times. There's an expression about walking in another man's shoes. My best advice would be to put your own shoes on and walk in them, cos only the man who's shoes they are knows the direction in which he's going. My best regards Mo __________________

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